Relief for Mei, my bebs, my dear, my guardian and companion

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sat Jan 23, 2021 11:47 pm

Haha, you fell on your butt. Look at me, I'm sturdy and can just run downhill with my four legs, sure footed paws, and traction from my nails. (She really could run down a super steep incline, one I was hesitant to go down even with a hiking stick and great grippy shoes.)

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sat Jan 23, 2021 11:49 pm

Grandma won't mind if I use this afghan she knitted for the family 40yrs ago. (Grandma DID mind, lol, but we got away with a small scolding and a Korean 'Aii goo!'.)

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sun Jan 24, 2021 5:37 am

I'm a service dog so I can go everywhere my human goes, including Diamond Head hike, which is no dogs allowed!

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sun Jan 24, 2021 7:17 am

just being cute, making bat ears and chillin.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sun Jan 24, 2021 7:21 am

What's kray tum?

Post by **Quercus** » Sun Jan 24, 2021 4:13 pm

I LOVE all these pictures of Mei! What a great life she led! Doggy nirvana!

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sun Jan 24, 2021 8:20 pm

Quercus wrote:I LOVE all these pictures of Mei! What a great life she led! Doggy nirvana!

It's been cathartic to post them, lol.

Post by **herbalhippie** » Sun Jan 24, 2021 9:31 pm

I love the pix!!

Also, I need a loco moco. Like, right now. I've never had one but I've been craving one for months. Going to have to make it myself.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sun Jan 24, 2021 9:46 pm

herbalhippie wrote:I love the pix!!

Also, I need a loco moco. Like, right now. I've never had one but I've been craving one for months. Going to have to make it myself.

Steamed white rice, usually calrose, can use soft jasmine or i've even had success with cauliflower rice, hamburger patty, I like a little char on the outside, raw on the inside, and at least a few eggs sunny side up. Brown gravy, a little sriracha... taste of Hawaii! There are a few places that vie with each other as the birthplace of the loco moco, I don't even want to understand which ethnicity here developed it, I just want to eat it allllllllll. But i'm doing keto, so no rice for me, just gotta use cauliflower rice.

LOL Mei loved loco mocos.

Post by **herbalhippie** » Sun Jan 24, 2021 9:49 pm

Just plain brown gravy? Because I saw this recipe that sounds more Asian/Hawaiian.

https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/27276 ... loco-moco/

Maybe I'll have to try both.

I don't know if I can wait until tomorrow for this.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sun Jan 24, 2021 9:54 pm

herbalhippie wrote:Just plain brown gravy? Because I saw this recipe that sounds more Asian/Hawaiian.

https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/27276 ... loco-moco/

Maybe I'll have to try both.

I don't know if I can wait until tomorrow for this.

The standard is a simple brown gravy, but the sesame oil and cayenne in your recipe there would be so delicious.

Some fine dining places have used foie gras, quail eggs, black truffles to elevate the dish, but i love it simple diner style.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sun Jan 24, 2021 11:04 pm

ok, more pics of the 2014 St Baldric's event where I got my head shaved for the very first time (it's liberating and feels great, easy to take care of. Have shaved my head several times since, tho right now I got hair).

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Mon Jan 25, 2021 7:02 am

Modeling my diapers and suspenders! Sashay, sashay, work it!

Walking with a spiffy wheelchair. Little did we all know, I would start to walk again normally with a lot of care and exercise.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Mon Jan 25, 2021 7:08 am

Hello my dear dog, where are you? Can you hear again? Miss you like crazy. You're got best in show and certainly pick of the litter.

Post by **ybanurse247** » Mon Jan 25, 2021 9:35 pm

Really sweet to see all these great memories of Mei. I’ve definitely neglected taking photos of Jack and you’ve inspired me to begin again. Their time is limited but photographs will be here forever, a bridge of sorts.

I sincerely hope you are doing ok, I think about you often. Take care!!

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Mon Jan 25, 2021 10:00 pm

Thanks yb, give Jack some scratches for me. He's not only your dog, but a living part of your husband's love; he's watching over you too.

We got together the remainder of Mei's supplies like poop bags, food, blinker lights, and gave care packages to our neightbors with dogs, and they have been supportive. Kaimana, Koa, Bruno, and Kumori were her buds, and Nico and Ziggy are brand new dogs around the block, they barely met Mei, but they had the obligatory butt-sniffing session a few times.

I'm happy to get some use outta those things, a few years ago I scored a case of 900 lavender-scented biodegradable poop bags, then Mei's guts stopped working in short order, and she never pooped on walks outside again, lol.

Kaimana's owner Susan offered to let me spend some time with her, I think i'll take her up on that in a week or two, she's a beautiful bearded collie. Soon, but not yet.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Tue May 11, 2021 11:08 pm

I got a small block of crystal with Mei's 3D image etched into it. It cost about $100 (extra $50 for shipping, and it took forever to get here, apparently UPS delivered it to USPS for the final leg of the trip here) and is beautiful.

https://www.forallgifts.com/product/my- ... sake-brick

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I will be buried with it, I think. Originally I had wanted to be buried with her collar, but a few weeks before she died, I got her a new collar and tossed the old, ratty red collar which had the sentimental value.

I miss her (and my cat) every day.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Thu Jun 10, 2021 12:32 am

Is it weird for me to talk to this block of crystal every day? I tell it how much I miss Mei and Max, and ask how they're doing and if they can hear me.

Post by **Loveandkindness43** » Sat Jun 12, 2021 5:59 pm

IndelibleDotInk wrote: ↑Thu Jun 10, 2021 12:32 am Is it weird for me to talk to this block of crystal every day? I tell it how much I miss Mei and Max, and ask how they're doing and if they can hear me.

That crystal is truly beautiful. I don't think thats weird at all. I believe Mei and Max can hear you and are watching over you everyday. They love you as much as you love them and its a lovely way to feel close to them. I'm truly sorry for loss, I know how much it hurts

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sun Jun 13, 2021 12:37 am

My mom had taken Max, the cat we shared, to her vet to put him down. Several days later we took Mei there because Mei's regular vet wouldn't have allowed us to be there as she was passing, and my mom's vet would. That was in early to mid January.

A week or two later, my mom's vet sent us cards with a stamp of their noses on it. Nice gesture, I had been suspecting they'd do that with a pawprint, but I guess it was ok... I could picture their limp bodies as their noses were mashed on an inkpad and then onto cardstock. But it was a really kind of them and the vet techs and drs wrote short 'we're sorry for your loss' phrases on the cards.

Then, today, June 12, got a package in the mail from the vet, and they sent two sachets, each with a ceramic pawprint and a fluff of fur. Weird that they would send it so much later, and why the furball? Regardless, I am appreciating them. I was kinda thinking their fur would be their legacy, as there was so much of their damn fur on all my stuff I found as we were moving houses in March. But this fluff of fur is cool. I can let my mom's cat Levi smell Max and Mei's fur and maybe he'll get closure instead of just wondering why they disappeared.

Post by **SusieQ52** » Sun Jun 13, 2021 8:45 am

I'm sitting here drinking coffee with huge tears running down my face - after reading this! My faithful, beautiful gentle giant - Hank is so protective of me. He is laying by my feet and is always by my side - and I was reading this and thinking someday I will probably have to do this with Hank! Hank is 7 years old and 150 pounds. I was given Hank two years ago after my brother and his best friend were killed in a horrific car accident. His favorite country singer was Chris Stapleton. So I've been listening to Chris and drinking coffee and missing my brother - reminising the memories that I had with him for 42 years. Then stumbled on this post -I guess I needed a good cry this morning!

I hope your heart is healing!!

IndelibleDotInk wrote: ↑Wed Jan 13, 2021 1:22 am So soon after Maximus, my cat, was ready to be put down, and now Mei Mei, my dear, my bebs, my guardian, my service dog, my companion and loving friend was ready to go.

My regular vet said due to COVID I'd just have to hand her off at the curb and not get to be with her, F that! So took her to my mom's vet, where she had put Max down and was able to be with him as he passed.

After being jabbed a few times in the hind leg without hitting the vein, the tech needed help holding Mei so she could work on finding the vein in her front leg. Mei had been comfortably lying on a towel on the ground, and the tech made us leave the room as she and the worker she called put in the catheter in a front leg. I had horrible visions of her being manhandled on her deathbed as we waited outside for what must have been over five minutes. Why couldn't they just find the darn vein?

But after entering the room again, she was calm and happy being hugged in the tech's arms and lap and obediently lay down again with some help. She had had nerve damage to her rear legs, tail, butt, and some of her lower back several years ago, but had recovered enough to run faster than me, bouncing off both back feet as one, though her tail was unfortunately paralyzed; I missed watching it wag and bounce. Recently her legs had quickly become undone and she no longer could do a 'sit' or 'down' for awhile. She had plenty of trouble laying down on her side to sleep, too. On the car ride over, I flipped her legs from out under her and she drowsed to the vibration of my SUV, peacefully finding a nap after a few weeks of not sleeping well, even with mild medication.

Dr. came in and he explained Mei would get an anesthetic shot, then the overdose of meds to stop her heart. I ruffled her head and gave her some scratches. In the car ride over, I couldn't kiss her dry nose, it felt too much like a betrayal type kiss, but I nommed her face with my lips and told her I loved her.

Vet injected the first chemical and she went to sleep, he injected the remaining chems and she was free. I sniffled and closed her eyes. Her last looks at me were loving and trusting, and I felt she was correct, she knew I was taking care of her, even though I felt like a scurvy rat.

The Dr. left us for some time to finish goodbyes, and my mom and I blew our noses and I almost yelled out as her body moved, a contraction from her abdomen to her chest like a deep, heavy breath.

I wonder if she got in the car and came home with us. I'd like her to haunt or be around for a few weeks, but I'm sure Max was there to greet her and help get her accustomed to wherever it is that immortal cat and dog souls go.

I never thought that picking up dog poop would be a privilege until she couldn't poop or pee on her own anymore a few years ago, and now I will go through a period of missing sticking my gloved finger up her pooper to scoop out the crap several times a day (my mom frequently did this too and it was such a blessing to have parents who let me have Mei and cared for her) and compressing her sides so she could get her pee expressed. Mei conducted herself with dignity, and always waited patiently as we serviced her.

A favorite memory was of a hike we did, I let her off leash and she disappeared into the scrub. I kept walking, and some time later she popped out of the underbrush with a small boar in her mouth, proud to show me her catch. I praised her for the hunt, made her drop it, and we ran out of there, not wanting to encounter a savage mother pig.

Damned if I get another dog.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sun Jun 13, 2021 10:00 pm

"I hope your heart is healing!!" Thank you, it is! Getting mailed that piece of her fur and pawprint (and Max's too) made me feel kinda weird, the vet kinda skinned my friends? But the sentiment is good, and the fur does bring me closer to them.

I am glad my mom has her cat, Levi, who, after 13yrs of seeing me and my dad as food sources to meow at, now sees us as warm furniture to lie on as well; he is adjusting to his brother and sister being gone too. My mom's on a trip and Levi is cozying up to me, I put his cat bed on my bed, so he isn't lonely at night, as he usually snuggles with her, much to her irritation.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sun Jun 13, 2021 10:03 pm

No doubt Hank will continue to give you the best years of his life.

I'm sorry your brother is gone, but you live your life with his influence and love shining from you. <3

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sun Jul 04, 2021 9:13 pm

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